Demisexual

A person who experiences sexual attraction only after forming a deep emotional bond. Demisexuality sits on the asexual spectrum — demisexual people don't experience primary sexual attraction (attraction based on appearance or first impression), but can experience secondary attraction once intimacy and trust develop.

Demisexuality is not a choice or a phase, and it is not the same as "not wanting to sleep around." It describes how attraction operates for the person, regardless of behavior.

Like all ace-spectrum identities, demisexuality is valid on its own and doesn't require proof or explanation. Some demisexual people use the label "gray-asexual" as a broader term.